Are You Lonely This Christmas?

By   •   November 29, 2018   •   Topics: , ,

This post was originally published in December 2017.

You’ve had a hard year. Maybe you’ve lost a loved one, experienced the end of a relationship, or have been overwhelmed by disappointments and suffering. The last thing you want to do is celebrate the holidays alone as depression creeps in.

The longing to be with other people during the holidays is natural. God created us for companionship with one another. “It is not good that the man should be alone,” the Bible says in Genesis 2:18. No amount of Christmas cookies or shopping can fill the void of another person.

>> Read Billy Graham’s answers on loneliness during various stages of life.

So it’s OK to cry, to mourn and be sad. But know God is here with you. He loves you deeply. As Psalm 147:3 proclaims, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

Sometimes, though, it doesn’t feel that way. It can be hard to see what God is doing in the midst of trouble. You may feel forgotten or unloved. Your view of God may become callous due to the circumstances around you.

But God knows your heart and has a much bigger plan for you.

When Mary, the mother of Jesus, became pregnant with Him, she probably felt very alone. Few believed that the virgin had become pregnant by the Spirit and not by man. The situation appeared scandalous, and gossip probably roamed the streets.

Yet, God was with her—even when she had to travel a long way at the end of her pregnancy and give birth to her firstborn far from home. There was no room for her at the inn, so she was in a dark stable while giving birth to the Light of the world. Even in one of life’s most troublesome and darkest times, she found the greatest joy and hope of her life.

God has extraordinary love for you and doesn’t want you to live in despair or hopelessness. He wants you to and share that joy with others. The Bible says in John 14:27, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.”

Despite how you feel during the holidays, you are never alone. In fact, Jesus Christ came down from heaven to be with you. That is the —love so great that it knows no bounds or distance. The separation you may feel from others this season is nothing compared to the distance that God has already gone for you.

Nevertheless, He cares for your hurting heart this season and sees you as His beloved.

“The most important thing I can tell you is that we are never alone when we know Christ,” Billy Graham once said in this My Answer.

Let the relationship with the One who made you satisfy the void in your soul. Instead of focusing on the absence of someone else, choose to let the presence of God be enough. You don’t have to listen to Christmas music or hang up stockings to celebrate the holiday this year; you simply have to who desires to be with you through every season of life.

Here are five more ways to help alleviate the pain of loneliness this Christmas:

1. Reach Out to Those Around You

Maybe you have a neighbor who has no family nearby or know of friends who would love to invite you over if they knew you were feeling so alone. Take the first step of being with others by reaching out to them. Him ham yourself an opportunity to be with people and be a gift to others this season.

2. Help Those in Need

There are plenty of ways to help those in your community this time of year. Whether volunteering at a local food pantry or watching kids while their parents go Christmas shopping, actively find an activity that you’re passionate about and show up. Put yourself out there for the sake of others, being a good steward of the gifts that God has given you. And you may be surprised at the community you create through helping others.

3. Let the Presence of Jesus Fill Your Heart

Take this time of less distraction from social activities to even more. Read His Word and seek Him out to see what He wants to teach you during this time.

4. Pray for Others

If you hear of someone else going through a rough time, stop and pray for that person right then. And don’t be afraid to ask for prayer for yourself.

5. Get Out of the House

There are all sorts of different Christmas activities to enjoy this time of year—concerts, plays, cantatas, candlelight services, caroling and parties. Join in on the festivities and fellowship with others in adoration of our Savior.

Christmas celebrates the coming of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published but you will receive our next BGEA ministry update. You can opt out of future emails at any time.


  1. Lilly Stevens says:

    Thank you for these great tips. I appreciate your sound advice that incorporates our Christian faith. God bless you!

  2. Angela Pinkston says:

    How do I get to know Jesus and be saved?

    1. BGEA says:

      Hi Angela,

      We are so glad that you want to know Jesus! If you would like to learn more about having a relationship with Him, go to . There, you will be provided with information that will help give you a better understanding of who Jesus is and how He died for you and all people. Online counselors are available to talk with you as well about any questions you may have. We’re praying for you and are so excited that you want to become our sister in Christ!

      —BGEA Team

  3. Sue says:

    I have family to be with, but some of them don’t want me there for Christmas Eve, so I will try and keep myself busy with your advice. I will be sure to celebrate Christmas for it’s true meaning. Thank you and may God bless you!

  4. Barbie says:

    This message is a big encouragement to me. It feels like it’s talking directly to my situation. Thank you.

  5. PR. CARLOS ANZOLA says:


  6. Dale Waldrop says:

    Very soothing.

  7. Mark says:

    Prayer warriors, please pray for the complete restoration of my marriage to my wife, Lisa. We’ve been apart since Nov. 13, 2017. The hard part is she is saved, and it’s been devastating to me. I love her with all my heart and want to serve God together with her. She has suffered so much grief from her ex. Only God can restore what Satan is trying to destroy! It’s very hard to be without her at Christmas time. I know God is with me, but His word also says marriage is until death do us part. I pray now for our communication to be restored and that she’ll be home for New Year’s!

  8. Kathy says:

    This is a blessing. Thank you for your advice. I would love to lift someone up this holiday. I have no one to celebrate with. Love you.

  9. M Baker says:

    Please pray for me.

    1. Zoie Yau says:

      I pray that Lord Jesus, with His presence and love, will fill your heart right now and that you will come to know that we are never alone because He has loved you so much. May His Word fill up your heart and become your strength right now! In Jesus’ name.

    2. Holly says:

      M. Baker, you are in my prayers. May you receive God’s love and peace now, in Jesus’ name.

  10. sonny says:

    Alone again.

    1. Zoie Yau says:

      I pray for you, Sonny, that during this holiday season you will come to know that you are His beloved. May He satisfy your heart with Himself today!

    2. Holly says:

      Sonny, you may feel alone but you are never alone. My prayers are with you. Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, is always with you and will never leave you or forsake you. May you receive His presence, love and peace now in Jesus’ Name.

Предлагаем вам со скидкой по вашему желанию, недорого.